Relationship Advice They DON’T Tell You…

But what they don’t realize is the relationship advice they’ve been given is not just unhelpful…in most of the cases we see, it’s too little, too late. They are already in too deep, driven by cultural myths about what women want, and have lost their masculine energy, vitality and life force that made the woman attracted to them in the first place.

A man feels as though, if he is a good enough guy, shows respect, affection, is on time, is neat, is nice, a woman will fall for him.

What we’ve seen over and over is that women respond to how a man makes her feel, not the things he does. And most guys have no idea how they make a woman feel, or what feelings are exciting for her.

Here are the 3 distinct phases guys play out:

1. Knight in shining armour. This is a classic role that guys love to play. It’s fed into our brains since childhood… the powerful handsome rich prince saving the princess and getting rewarded with sex, affection, and female attention. This story often leads guys to pursue girls who are not interested in them, spend months or years patiently hoping that if they stick around long enough a girl will recognize what a good guy they are, or stay in toxic relationships with girls who have extreme emotional problems hoping that they can ‘fix them’ or ‘save them. This leads to the next mistake…

2. Sacrifices. The knight has to slay a big dragon to impress the princess. But it’s worth it when he gets that sweet, sweet feminine attention and approval he’s been craving in the form of sex, a girlfriend, intimacy etc. So many guys often end up making sacrifices to prove their love, from the subtle day by day ones to the grandiose. An example of the subtle is attending to a woman’s every need to the point where you smother her. and the grandiose… in this job I’ve watched countless guys throw away passions, friendship groups, careers, fulfilling lifestyles and artistic pursuits to ‘be with a girl’. And here’s the worst part: women don’t respect you for it… they actually resent it! They are attracted to a man with a vital life force and purpose… unless that purpose is ‘needily extract validation and feminine attention from this woman.’ She wants to be part of your life, NOT your whole life.

3. Resentment. Men who play out these stereotypes long enough end up resenting women. They feel cheated by the system, lied to, manipulated. This is covered extensively in “No More Mr Nice Guy” by Robert Glover. It feels for them that no matter how hard they try, no matter how nice, chivalrous, and committed they are, their quest for feminine affection and attention winds up hurting them.

So what is the ultimate relationship advice? Maintain a purpose, drive, and passion outside of women. Make her a fun addition to your already stimulating lifestyle, not the focal point of it. This involves discovering who YOU are as a man before diving head first into a serious long-term monogamous relationship.

Why You Make Excuses

The closer you come to evolving yourself, acheiving your goals or really changing, the more your ego will go into overdrive trying to protect yourself, and create the most insane excuses.

In the lead up to The Masterclass I’ve spoken to so many guys and heard a lot of excuses that are just based on fear.

It’s something myself and Shae Matthew’s have worked into our coaching program: how can we change your inner game so you stop making excuses?

If you want to get pushed past your excuses in the real world, come join me for my Month of Mayhem Program! Two spots left in the last class before I leave for James Marshalls Eurotour!

Star in the Euro Tour Movie


I announced this last year but the project had to be delayed. Now, Sasha and I have finalised the plans for the making of our epic road movie. Which means I can announce it publicly and put the call out for a select crew of guys to join us for the ride of a lifetime.

I’m excited to announce a unique opportunity to come with Myself, Sasha Daygame, his head coach Ryan and Liam McRae on the infmous Euro Tour for FREE!* this May.

Have we gone crazy? We were always crazy but there’s method to this madness.

We’ve decided to film a high quality documentary of the world’s only 10 day travelling seduction workshop to let the world know what goes on, on the road..


So we need 4 brave guys to join us and take part in the doco. That’s the only catch. By coming, you agree to have your journey of self improvement and seductive success filmed for all to see. This film will be about the coaches, their students and the incredible challenges, changes and successes that they experience on tour. This doco will hopefully be screened at film festivals as well as having online release, so you will be a cast member in this amazing pick up road movie.

For guys who are paranoid about anyone finding out they want to get better with girls, or feel their identities cannot be tied to coaching, this is not for you.

But if you are proud of the fact that you want more out of life, are excited to learn from the world’s best and take the adventure of a lifetime; this may be the greatest opportunity you will ever have.

If there’s butterflies in your stomach and you feel like this might be for you, read on:

Let’s get down to details…


The tour is officially from 9th – 21st May 2013, starting in Prague and finishing in Belgrade.


Prague, Budapest, Belgrade.. Our favourite cities for chasing insanely hot Eastern Euro ladies..

Application process

To apply you must be between 18 and 45, speak very good English and have a sincere desire to improve your game and your entire character. We are open to applicants from anywhere in the world.

To be considered for application you must send us a short video of yourself with the following:

– Introduce yourself, tell us about your lifestyle, hobbies, friends etc

– Tell us about your history with women and socially. Your problems and sticking points

– Detail what you would like to improve on by coming on the tour

– Explain why we should choose you for this once in a lifetime event

Send a link to the video to [email protected]

You must be available from 9th- 21st May 2013. Please do not apply unless you are certain you have this time available.

It’s not important what level of skill you currently have, that’s our job to help you improve. More important is a great attitude, an openness about yourself, the good the bad, the funky and a burning desire to get this part of your life sorted.

*Note that although the training will be completely free, you will need to cover your own travel to Prague and returning from Belgrade, plus daily living expenses ($50 a day would be more than enough) as well as a $1500USD fee to cover your accommodation and transport on tour. So, you will be receiving $9000 worth of the world’s most unique and powerful seduction workshop for absolute cost price.

We expect to get a lot of applicants and need to decide VERY soon on who we are taking, so if you want this badly I suggest making your video NOW and sending to us at [email protected]

After that, we’ll be in contact with you to discuss the next stage of the application. Best of luck and hope to see you in sunny Prague, for the ride of a lifetime.

To find out more about The Natural Lifestyles Euro Tour, click HERE.


22 Inner game lessons for a better life


I was having a think about the top lessons that I’ve learned over my years in relationships as well as in my development, After sitting down and having a chat with Liam Mcrea and thinking about all the work I’ve done in the naturals with James marshall over the years I decided to write out the top lessons for life that For the principles for a better relationship with yourself and others.

Im interested to hear which ones you like the most and if you have any others that you think should make the list.


A spiritual warriors cheat sheet

22 Lessons to live by

1. Realize that the source of all love, happiness and abundance exists within yourself. There is no other person or thing that can give you what you truly seek outside yourself. When you realize and embody this you will enter the flow as an independent yet simultaneously connected individual. When we let go of needing to fulfill ourselves through the external we free ourselves to truly be powerful and make choices that are in our best interests.
2. Work on your purpose on a daily basis even if you dont know what it is (seek it) and know that your self and all that is reflected back to it from the world of circumstance is like a garden that needs to be tended and nurtured constantly. The seeds you plant today with thought word and deed will be the world you wake up in tomorrow. When you are at one with your purpose you will be able to navigate the ocean of life with greater ease grace and synchronicity.

3. Never take your power for granted you are the creator of the meaning in your life. Learn to stand between the opposites of life and hold the paradox. Be aware that your desires, feelings and conditions only a small and transient aspect of the possibilities that exist in life and the opposite of them is just as real and powerful if you need to tune into them and bring them into being as well.

4. Grow from your challenges rather than resist and resent them. When you allow yourself to really step into a challenge you will find things out about yourself that you never knew, You will grow learn and evolve as a result. Resisting challenge only prolongs the suffering accepting it allows you to move through it with greater ease and grace.

5. Be wary of putting yourself into a box of limited being and always question what truly serves you. Learn to say no to energies, thoughts, feelings and people that are not good for you and your evolution and be clear on your boundaries of what’s ok and not ok for you.

6. Develop your self worth and let go of guilt shame and fear. Drop any attachments to the past or the future that have negative emotions attached to them and know that as you let go and forgive yourself and others, you will always be rewarded with a greater sense of peace, love and appreciation for life as it is rather than what you wished it was. This will make you stronger, clearer and wiser in the process.

7. Have gratitude, love and appreciation for what you have even if it’s just this breath and be open to the greater potential of receiving that which you truly desire in your heart. Understand that you are the door keeper that rejects or accepts things coming into your life and gratitude is the magnet to attract that which you desire in your heart.

8. Be open to receiving, understanding and creating new distinctions in your view of the world. A closed mind is the beginning of suffering. Learning to grasp more complex understandings free’s you from the chains of ignorance and allows you to make better choices that are in alignment with what actually is. There are no black and whites in the world nor shades of grey. There is every color, combination and variation you can imagine.

The mind body spirit complex

9. Don’t be afraid of the ocean of chaos that is life, it is you. Even though at times the calling to be more than we have ever been before can seem overwhelming at times consciously engaging and working through it with skill and strategy is the path to true self actualisation. To repress or reject the chaos of life only means that you will have to learn the lessons unconsciously and in a way that is destructive to yourself and others.

10. Don’t let society , other people, culture or religion take over your own values but respect and have empathy and compassion for the value of others. When we allow others values to supersede and subsume our own we become deeply conflicted, stressed and destructive to ourselves and others. Instead make the wiser choice, Work out what’s important to you in your heart and live it with committed resolve. When you are on your path of true will destiny will open before you and nothing can stand in your way. If it does and it succeeds it was not your destiny anyway.

11. Connect to the source of your power on a regular basis. Your being is always connected to infinite intelligence, love and abundance, with an open heart and a desire to be connected with your source you will always have the love and polarity of the divine masculine and feminine within you on tap. Learn to be still, watch and listen as an impersonal witness and let your higher connection and knowing come into being effortlessly.


12. Say yes to experiences that challenge you and make you grow even if past conditioning tells you to close off and push them away. At the same time know when something is not for you and don’t be afraid to walk away if it’s not right.

13. Above all else be true to yourself and your needs and never forget that you are the centre of the world as far as your concerned. Paradoxically understand that everyone else is a centre as well and respect and support them to fulfil the needs and themselves as long as does not harm others unnecessarily or intentionally.

14. Trust in the abundance of life to provide you with your needs and fulfil your desires but don’t forget to do your bit in creating alignment with them as best as you can. Think of what you wish for regularly and feel good about it then let go, trust and take appropriate action. Learn to clear your own path by letting go of limiting beliefs, knowing your values and setting goals and intensions on a regular basis.

15. Aim for efficiency and let go of ways of thinking, feeling and acting that cost you time and effort. The one thing you have a limited resource of is time, never forget it and aim to be a master of your time. By setting up systems and strategies that help you get more out of what you do and help you get to where you need to be easier and faster. A sub lesson of this is to be aware of time and energy traps that exist in the world and do your best to free yourself from them. Society is full of these traps that want you to buy into all kinds of schemes and scams learn to avoid time intensive processes, avoid time wasting and don’t buy into anything big before you have thought about it’s consequences and the sacrifices that it way bring in the long run.


16. Love your shadow and realise that your down times are equally valid, important and powerful to your evolution, growth and wholeness as a human. Your shadow is your ally in disguise, Your best friend that holds a mirror to your flaws with the intention of helping grow and be more of what you truly are.

17. Let go of shadows that aren’t yours. It is a normal part of life that we share and exchange energies and information with others and the world around us. Be aware of energies and information that does not serve you and detach from them. Intent and send shadows that do not belong to you back to the source and abstain from negative sources of information that invade your thought and feeling space. This means turning off the TV, choosing your internet info wisely and not reading the papers if and when the information that they are presenting is not of highest intentions.

18. Don’t take things personally. In the final analysis most of the things that worry us and seem to create negativity are insignificant in the greater context if life. Ask yourself will you really care about this on your death bed? And in the light of all the things that are really important, the love you have from people around you, your life, your health, and your very miraculous existence does it really matter? 9 times out of 10 it will be a no and if so take a deep breath say fuck it and let it go back to the source. Holding onto negative thoughts and feelings only ends up poisoning yourself anyway.


19. Abstain from negativity, judgment, fear and criticism as much as possible. It only fosters separation negative ego and drops your energy to a lower state of potential.

20. Look after yourself and learn to truly love yourself like a perfect parent would bring up a child. We are all still children that need strong parents in this journey of life and as such we need allot of love, support, nurturing and most of all allot of fun, creativity and play. Eat well, sleep well, love allot and do things you love and make you happy on a regular basis. Be the source of your own happiness.

21. Take responsability and speak for yourself only. Be aware of the tendency to generalise, delete and distort the world around you and think that if it’s true for you it’s true for others as well. Catch yourself out at every opportunity and realise that there are no real limits to the life you create except the rules you put on life and it’s self.

22. Forgive the challenging past and let go of your fears. The attachment to the hurtful past and the fears that live within it are the very things that will recreate that which you feared in the first place. When you take the lessons from your experiences the fear based emotions will fall away and you will be left with gold nuggets of loving wisdom you can keep forever.

If you are interested in finding out more about how to actually embody these lessons and other lessons get in contact with me or check out the masterclass revolution . I’de love to hear from you.
[email protected]

You can also check out for my mens self development program for my one on one services including innergame skype sessions

Or join our local melbourne community


The Revolution Has Begun

I was just doing some writting and development for the next upcoming major event that me and Liam are teaching together and I relaised that I’ve never blogged about this class. Over the last few years I have seen this class change the lives of hundreds of guys that we have trained over the years. It has evolved along the way as we have grown as men and visionaries as well.

Now this course implements the best of the best seduction and self transformation inner game technology available. From direct natural seduction techniques to getting your head straight and getting a purpose and direction worth living for this class has it all.

Welcome to the Revolution in seduction dating and relating.


For those who hav’nt heard f the Masterclass foundations Class is the world most comprehensive Natural seduction and lifestyle design course on the planet.

Build over the last five years by James Marhall, Shae Matthews, Jess Daly and Liam Mcrea this is the Natural lifestyles answer to becoming the complete package of a man.

If you interested in taking part in this or future versions of this training or if your just interested in what we get up to in Melbourne read on.


Why It works

The masterclass is a comprehensive full spectrum coaching program developed over years of research and development infield.

This rare event is the most in depth program of its type in the world – 3 full weekends of live training on dating, relationships, seduction, confidence, Inner game and personal success.

The Masterclass Revolution offers a once in a lifetime opportunity to solve your love life issues once and for all.

It has been engineered with proven learning techniques so that you get the most out of your time together with us.


“ Doing the Masterclass was probably one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life and is so much more than a pick-up course. Prior to beginning the class, I was a bit of a skeptic but it has transformed my life and has opened me up to a new world of possibility. It is like I have been living my entire life with blinkers on, and they have finally been removed. I am now working towards some fucking amazing goals. I am happier than I have been in years. I have sexy girls just appearing in my life (randomly adding me on facebook, approaching me etc) – Life is good. The lesson – fucking do the class! ”.

Mark 21 Melbourne

I”ve just completed the Masterclass and I have to say it is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. The information and tools I’ve been exposed to are just mindblowing and have really opened my mind to a whole new world out there that I had no idea even existed. Thanks to the teachings, I went out and put an end to my sexual drought which lasted 2 years and 9 months! You will not regret it!

Zane 25 Melbourne.

About the trainers


Shae has been actively involved in self development and holistic health for over a decade and is well versed in a wide and varied array of personal empowerment techniques including; Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, Energetic re-patterning, Eastern health therapies, meditation and esoteric studies to name a few. He is also a fully qualified Massage therapist and personal trainer. Shae specializes in helping clients with their internal blockages unproductive belief patterns, to develop true confidence, inner power and rock solid positive beliefs. He brings great depth and lateral perspective to the Natural team and his unique set of skills allow him to assist clients on many levels.

As a coach Shae is a gifted communicator, able to condense complex theories into practical tools. He prides himself on his ability to get results and help those that are truly ready to help themselves, get to where they desire to be. His passion for women is second only to his passion for self mastery and helping others find their fulfillment, freedom and self expression.


Liam has rocketed to coaching success with his unique methods and unwavering obsession with getting results. He is a specialist in rapid escalation – making an interaction sexual incredibly fast and is amazing at teaching guys how to install the mindsets and skills that make super fast physical escalation possible.

Liam also works a lot with social freedom exercises, helping his clients to break through social fears and limiting beliefs about what is truly possible when you break the social rules. He is a master of multiple relationship paradigms that mean you can ethically have many more than one girlfriend, if you so chose.

When not coaching for TNL, Liam plays death metal guitar in his band, composes musical scores for TV and writes for music press. He is also the author of an upcoming breakthrough book “Rapid Escalation”.

Connect with us today to find out more and receive a no obligation free phone consultation to help you get your dating, relating and love success on track.

Call Shae on 0419288725

Or email [email protected]com for further details.